It seems as though I’m a bit of a smarty pants when I apply myself! I got an A on my first paper and test for my Sociology class! YES! It was a stressful week of studying at the library, after the kiddos went to bed and in my cube at lunch! I’m mentally exhausted and honestly I think I over studied! Now that I know his test style I can surely ease up! It was a hard test, I will give him that. If you didn’t understand the concepts or know it you were basically screwed. I can see how one person in our tiny class got an F. I’m proud of myself because the results of the test prove that once I apply myself I can achieve anything. I haven’t had that confidence in a LONG TIME!! I feel like I’m in such a positive place in my life right now. I know I can be a bit of a “glass half empty kind of girl” but now I’m starting to learn to look at life differently. Going to church, getting a new job (HAS DONE WONDERS) and discovering me outside of my role as wife and mother by going to school has helped with that. I find myself better equipped at seeing all of the little things in life that are simply precious: A messy house because the kids played endlessly in it all day, a goofy smile, a warm hug…..it is nice.
On a different note The Salamon family has a nice busy weekend planned! I am looking forward to it because we have been hiding in the house for quite some time on the weekends due to weather! It’s time to break the spell!
HAPPY BLOG-aversary to me! This has been a wonderful year for me blog wise. I’ve learned my writing style, created a digital log of important thoughts and feelings about my children and got to know myself a little better!
Thank you to all my followers. Here is to another great blogging year!
It’s been a crazy two weeks! I started my new job in Avon Lake and I love, love, love it! The drive is shorter (And less frustrating), I can spend more precious moments with my littles in the morning, and my phone does not ring! Heaven! I am slowly but surely getting used to things and people and what’s expected of me. Each day more and more things are thrown my way. So far it’s great! I’ve been studying for my first test in Sociology that is Wednesday and I’m completely overwhelmed. I would like to finish everything tonight and then have Alan quiz me Tuesday night..I also have SEVERE test anxiety……OMG! I do know that my professor isn’t teaching anything after so I’m assuming we have the complete three hour class to complete our test. I hope and pray that I get an A, if I get anything less than a B I will be extremely disappointed in myself.
So that is where I’ve been and why my posts have been non existant.
I have been assigned my first college paper in almost six years! AH! Talk about writing under pressure. So I started to write it and I have to stop. I stopped because I HATE being “forced” to write something or a topic that someone else wants me to write about and write it formally. I just want to write freely like I do on here. My thoughts as incoherent as they may be. The assignment is a reaction paper to a film called Middle Sexes that we watched in class. My first reaction was sad! How sad is this subject matter! I was also a little bit disgusted by the way the transgendered community is presented and portrayed in other cultures. The film opens about a transgendered women, Gwen who was killed in a brutal way because men found out she had a penis. I personally was familiar with this story because they made it into a Lifetime movie. How horrible to have your life ended because you were trying to be yourself and be comfortable with how God made you. It was not her fault that she was born a women in a man’s body. Then the movie went into a story about an eight year old boy who acts like a female and has female tendencies. He wears little girls clothes, plays with girl toys and is extremely feminine. His parents were concerned for his safety because society doesn’t except that type of behavior. He was telling the camera how his classmates ask him all kinds of questions and that he is usually open about answering their questions and if he doesn’t want to answer them he won’t. As a mother my heart broke and ached for these parents and children. Who wants their children to live a life any harder then it has to be. I was also afraid. I’ll be perfectly frank when I say that I don’t want my children to go this and I wouldn’t be able to handle it because that is not what “Normal” gender and society has been for me. They don’t teach this in grade school and high school. At least they didn’t when I was there and I never have had to deal with this issue or have known anyone who has. Maybe it’s my shear ignorance. I certainly hope and pray that my children end up normal by societies standards. Then the film went into a third sex category in India called Hydras. These are men who voluntarily castrate themselves and live life as a woman. This isn’t necessarily looked down on but accepted. This is considered a “third sex” and they live together in a community and live relatively normal lives. In Thailand “Lady Boys” are treated with the utmost respect and are often in show business or models. These “lady boys” are the epitome of sexy in their culture. I found that disgusting to be honest. For one they aren’t technically female and they are parading around showing people the supposed epitome of sexiness. Gross. I find nothing wrong with the fact these people have chosen to live their life as a transgendered individual but the thought of it on parade is what is gross to me. Maybe that is my close minded American way. Maybe it’s because I don’t understand in Thailand this is acceptable. Maybe it is them being proud of what they have over come and the fact that they don’t fit the norm of any culture or society. AHHH! Ok I’m done for the night. Hopefully writing this blog will help me tomorrow when I finish my paper!
I’ve been back at school for almost a month, approaching quickly on my first test over the first 4 chapters I have read and learned about the differences in our gender and gender roles. It is very interesting to say the least and I’m pretty sure that if I look this class 10 years ago I wouldn’t really be into it. At this stage in my life I feel that it is extremely important to understand where we as gender have evolved from and why our roles are what they are. The first chapter just introduced the definition of what Society is and introduced us to Structural Functionalism and Feminist views of our society. It was confusing and interesting at the same time. The second chapter talked about how babies at the first six weeks of gestation do not have an identifiable sex and that the parts that make us male or female develop after that six week mark. It also goes on about our chromosomal makeup and what happens if things don’t quite add up, if you are born XO, XXY and so on. My professor added things to this subject. We talked about the transgendered community and how they fit into society. My class meets one day a week for three hours, needless to say I am extremely awake when I get home at 9pm. How can you not be? My brain is more stimulated in that three hours then it is my whole working day! I really hope that because I find the subject matter so interesting I get an A in the class. Mind you it’s been about five years since I was in college so my studying and reading habits are pretty much nonexistent. This was an excellent class to get my feet wet and get me back into the groove! Chapter three was about how Sociologists have studied our early ancestors and how closely related we are to chimpanzees and bonobos. Although there are still gaps in their studies it was interesting to read about the different theories as to how we evolved and how our gender and gender roles played in the world back then.
So kudos to my Professor for making this class extremely interesting!
On Tuesday after work I went to pick up my children from my mom’s house. She is gracious enough to watch them two days a week and trust me when I say they love it and I love it. Madison was playing a game on the computer when I walked in and Oliver was by the table in the living room. Usually I will stay a bit and visit with my mom and stepdad or eat dinner with them and this time was no different. I helped my mom but decals on her kitchen wall while Madi played on the computer and Oliver ate a sucker. Mistake number one! He isn’t too young per say to have a sucker but he is too young to understand why we take it away from him when it reaches a certain point where he could potentially choke on the stick. It was time to take it away from him and boy did he throw a fit! This is the worst fit I have seen him throw in his entire two years of life. My mom and I tried to calm him down and finally he did. He was getting ready to climb up the couch to give my stepdad a kiss and a hug when he slipped and hit his head on the corner of her table! Mistake number two! I should have redirected him to a different part of the couch so he could get to my stepdad safely. The temper tantrum started all over again and at that point I knew it was time to leave! He was rolling on the floor, kicking, screaming, crying, and shouting NO! It was awful and I was mortified and embarrassed. Thank the good Lord this happened at my mom’s house and not a restaurant. At one point my stepdad had to literally hold him up so I could put his coat on him! Ahhhhh, the joys of parenthood! Each time my child throws a temper tantrum I secretly wish I could shrink away and not have to deal with it. They certainly try my patience as a mother and trust me when I say I’m still after all of these years learning how to deal with them in a healthy way.
Just thought I would share a less than perfect story with you. Makes me appreciate the good times I have with them all the more and not take them for granted.
Ok, back in August I posted about my Mom’s amazing homemade Mac N Cheese recipe! This time when I made it I added a twist! I added peas! YUM! All I did different was 1/2 cup of frozen peas to the boiling noodles! My children didn’t like it but boy did Alan and I! CAN WE SAY YUM!
Here is the link to my post with the recipe! ENJOY! Next time I’m adding bacon!!