Ok, I will start by saying I have a love affair with Grey’s Anatomy. I’ve watched every episode, binge watched seasons on Netflix until 2am on a work night and have completely fallen in love with so many of the great characters that have come and gone from the show over the course of 11 seasons. I have not watched Season 11 in its entirety due to finishing season 10 late and not wanting to start the season on its 5th episode. I knew Patrick Dempsey would be leaving Grey’s it was just a matter of when and how. I was on Face book this past weekend and saw some clips that caught my attention that something big was going to happen on last night’s episode. I dismissed it at the time because I thought eh; it’s most likely nothing only a ploy to get more viewers to tune in. Then I saw something again yesterday while on lunch and remembered at 8:15pm so I turned it on.
*CONTAINS SPOILERS* DO NOT READ IF YOU DON’T WANT TO RUIN IT
I tuned in right after Derek had saved a couple of people from a horrible car accident. He worked with speed, grace, and compassion and level headedness as the Derek we have come to know and love over the course of 11 seasons. When it was all over he and got the people he had helped get stable and ready for transfer to the nearest hospital, he flashed his beautiful smile and said his famous line “It’s a beautiful day to save lives.”
I had an eerie feeling that something was not right or that he would just drop dead from internal injuries. He got back into his car, reached for his phone to call Meredith and BOOM a semi crashed into his car. The next time we see him he is bleeding all over and being dropped off at the same hospital the people he saved are at. Foreshadow number one: When the ambulance dropped him off the doctor that greeted them said they were not a trauma center and couldn’t handle him as they already had too much on their plate. The doctor also said that if he died it would be on him because they didn’t know what to do with him. Foreshadow number two: The entire time the doctor’s were working on him he was narrating that he was not dead and that he needed a CT on his head. One of the women doctors kept telling her team that they needed to do this but no one would listen as they thought he was bleeding internally from his abdominal or lung.
While Derek was in surgery they realized too late that he was hemorrhaging from his head and by the time the neurosurgeon got in it was too late. He had also taken his sweet time to get there as his response time should have been 20 min. So there Derek was bleeding on the table and no one did anything to save him. It’s kind of ironic that one of the best neurosurgeons in the country died of a missed brain bleed. Finally the police had gotten a hold of Meredith as she had not heard from him and was panicked, so she and her two children made their way to the hospital. Meredith being a doctor herself knew that he was being kept alive by ventilators and made it a point to tell them that it was bad call that they didn’t get a head CT at the very beginning.
I will say that I liked how Meredith was extremely steady and stern as she told the women doctor who was outside and apologized to her about not being able to save her husband that that will be her one. That she will see her husband’s face on every patient and it will force her to do better and be better otherwise her husband died for nothing if she quits. She also told her that tomorrow is another day and there will be more patients depending on her to save them because they can’t save themselves and this will haunt her for the rest of her life and these types of things do and make doctors better. That was excellently done as it shows how Meredith has come full circle in her career as a doctor and can speak with grace and truth even when it’s something that is personal to her.
Now here is what I didn’t like that made me extremely angry, I get that he wanted to leave the show for whatever the reasons personal or professional. I respect that because I love Patrick Dempsey and think he is a wonderful actor and role model in general. The thing that really got me upset to the point I couldn’t sleep was the fact that the writers couldn’t have thought of a more dignified way for him to leave. Christina Yang got an amazing send off, George O’Malley while he also died, died a hero. Yes Derek died a hero because he did save the lives of the people in the car accident before his own, but dying of a miss diagnosed brain bleed doesn’t sit well with me. I feel like because of the importance of his role that he played in the entire series he should have died or exited a bit more gracefully then that. I really hope that the funeral next week is a great montage of Derek’s life and work on the series. I really hope that they handle that with grace and dignity.
Another thing that really made me upset was this, this show had the potential to be a classic show that people watch over and over again because they fell in love with it. I feel that by Derek being killed off it ruined the entire series for me and I’m sure a lot of other people. I really hope it does not get picked up for season 12 and I have no interest in watching the full season 11. It reminded of when the show ER killed off Mark Greene due to brain cancer. That left a bad taste in my mouth and I never continued to watch it after that nor have I ever wanted to watch again from the beginning. There are so many shows I have watched over and over again after the series ends because they did such a fantastic job in wrapping things up. No I don’t mean that they have to all be fairy tale endings. Six Feet Under did not leave with a fairy tale ending as one the main characters dies at the very end. The thing that makes me want to watch the series over in its entirety is the way it was written and beautifully portrayed. Viewers get attached to the characters of a good show as the writers do a fantastic job of making them real and appealing to so many people. One of the reasons I fell in love with Grey’s is the whole Mer/Der love story while not perfect by any means does a great job of portraying how you have to work at your marriage and that no one is perfect. You do what works best for you as husband and wife. You have put in the work and make an investment to truly get a marriage that works for you. It’s the same way with books. Readers get emotionally invested in a book or series because the writer makes it appealing. Makes you fall in love with certain things. I only hope that one day I will be able to write something that evokes this much emotion out of a large number of people.
While I have no ill feelings towards Patrick Dempsey because it’s his right to do what is best in his life and start something new I just wish Shonda would have ended it differently. Good Mr. Patrick Dempsey as you switch gears in your life. You being Derek Shepherd impacted my life as so many of your other movies and shows have. I look forward to seeing what comes next.